1. It’s essential to make naps a part of your midday routine so you can be refreshed and rejuvenated…just kidding! by all means take naps but be aware that you’ll probably be just as exhausted and ready for another nap after you wake up! (Tip: coffee is your best friend)
2. You will laugh more than you cry. Actually, you’ll probably cry more than you laugh, at least at first…unless it’s that sleep-deprived, psychotic-type of laughter you do so that you don’t go crazy, or it’s because you are already crazy and that’s why you’re laughing.
3. You can’t wait to put your baby down for her nap so that you can have a moment to yourself, but then you end up checking on her every 15 minutes wishing it was time to wake her up and hold her again.
4. Your husband can help more than you realize. Yes, you typically feed the baby (assuming you only breastfeed), but all it takes is one pumped bottle of milk for him to keep her happy for a couple of hours while you go to the nail salon or coffee shop–you need it! Trust your husband to help you.
5. Stay adventurous and figure out what it takes to travel with a baby. It’s good to get out of the house and feel like you’re still a part of civilization! I learned early on that all I had to do was make sure my diaper bag was packed and that I brought my pump when taking day trips around the island. You can pump in the car and feed her from the bottle while you’re shopping or running errands–a great time-saver.
6. Treasure the sweet moments. When my little girl wakes up in the morning, she almost always has a smile on her face and giggles when you make a couple of funny faces. I live for those moments. File every one of those precious memories away in a safe place and pull them out again when you need to renew your ‘mommy-soul’.
7. You might go a little crazy on the baby clothes…who knew it could be so much fun to dress your own living doll baby?! Seriously. It might become a problem. Would you believe that I walked straight past the baby clothes section of T.J.Maxx the other day and didn’t stop to look at a single outfit?? That takes major self-control, ladies. Treat yourself to a smoothie.
8. Guess who’s the star of the party now? Your baby! You’re just the faceless wonder that transports your little prince/princess around for others to admire. Considering that it is your child and he/she received their gorgeous looks from you (of course), it’s really not so bad that the baby gets all the attention, is it? You’ll just beam with admiration as they shower your baby with lovely compliments, which the mommy-brain translates into, “you make beautiful babies!” Hey, I’ll take it!
9. Not everyone likes to hear a baby crying. Okay, let’s be honest…NO ONE likes to hear a baby crying. But it’s your baby so you take it personally–how dare the nearby table guests act annoyed at hearing your precious baby wailing! Honestly, no one will be more stressed than you when your quiet dinner turns into a chaotic moment of find-the-pacifier, or bottle, or whatever it is that will shush your sweetie-pie. So relax (or just try really hard to), put on your selective-vision mommy glasses and ignore everyone else. Babies cry. Just focus on your baby and remove yourself and the baby temporarily, if necessary, so that the two of you can have a moment together to collect yourselves and figure out the source of the babies frustration. It will be okay.
10. You will be amazed at how one giggle from your baby, one lopsided smile, or one beautiful glance from their big, innocent eyes, can change everything. Suddenly, you forget the mountain of laundry that made your heart sink when you walked by it this morning, or the four different times you woke up last night to soothe your unhappy infant. In that moment, everything is worth it. It always was, and always will be. Your child accepts and loves you unconditionally and you return that love with your whole heart.
I love being a mom.